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Live Life as a Learning Opportunity Emotions: other-focused Options: A-F   Blame Fear Anger Forgive Grief and Loss Betrayal Letting Go

Emotional Awareness: Others-focused: Option A Blame (others) A Mental Picture of Blame Imagine person you blame. Setting a fishing pole in water. They place the hook down into the water. This person, you blame, leaves their fishing pole in the water; and they leave to do other activities, While you remain floundering in murky waters of the past biting at their hook Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness OR; Continue Next Line: BLAME SOURCE I blame (a person)________________ for ___________________________ I blame (a group) _________________ for _____________________________ I blame (an organization) ___________________ for ___________________________________ I blame (an event)___________________ for ________________________________. Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt OR; Continue Next Line: FOCUSING IN MY BLAME WITH GREATEST INTENSITY (state source)   _________________________ (state reason) for   ______________________ RELEASE STATEMENT I let go my blame involving (state source)   ____________________ (state reason) for   _________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Awareness - Intention Options Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Others-focused: Option B Fear ( others) FEAR DESCRIPTION EXAMPLES Mild - Moderate - Intense My pain is? (describe pain) _____________________ BODY AWARENESS LOCATION EXAMPLES Chest - Arm - Head - Stomach – Heart My fear is located in my ? (describe location) ________________________________ FEAR AWARENESS SITUATION POSSIBLITIES Work - Financial - Family - Relationship FOCUSING IN My fear relates to (state person, situation, organization) _________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/ Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Others-focused: Option C Anger ANGER DESCRIPTION EXAMPLES Mild Moderate High Intense My anger is? (describe anger) _________________ BODY LOCATION EXAMPLES Stomach - Chest Head - Back Heart - Arm I feel my anger in my ? (describe location) _____________________ EMOTIONAL AWARENESS EXAMPLES Fear Anger Hurt Joy Guilt Hate Revenge Love My anger represents (express emotion) _________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: ANGER ANALYSIS Life situation my anger relates to is ___________________________ A person my anger relates to is ___________________________ An unresolved situation my anger relates to is _____________________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: FOCUSING IN ANGER SITUATION WITH GREATEST INTENSITY ____________________________ RELEASE STATEMENT I release my anger regarding ____________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Awareness Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Others-focused: Option D Forgive (others) FORGIVENESS METAPHOR To untie; Untie the knot, that binds you. Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness OR; Continue Next Line: FORGIVENESS STATEMENTS I forgive (a person) ________________ for their actions and behaviors regarding _________________________________ I forgive (a organization) _____________ for their actions and behaviors regarding _____________________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Awareness - Intention Options OR; Continue Next Line: FOCUSING IN MY GREATEST HEALING POTENTIAL IS FORGIVING (state person)   ____________________ (state reason) for   _________________ RELEASE STATEMENT I forgive (state person)   ___________________ for (state reason)   _______________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Awareness - Intention Options Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Others-focused: Option E Grief and Loss GRIEF AWARENESS I grieve the loss of _______________ BODY LOCATION EXAMPLES Stomach - Chest Head - Back Heart - Arm I FEEL THE GRIEF IN MY (state body location) _________________ GRIEF STATEMENTS MEMORIES WHICH OCCUR TO ME ARE ____________________ FEELINGS I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE ARE _____________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: FOCUCING IN MY GRIEF WITH GREATEST INTENSITY ___________________________ RELEASE STATEMENT I let go of my grief involving the loss of _________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Awareness - Intention Options Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness; Others-focused: Option F Betrayal OVERVIEW BETRAYAL SITUATION An intimate relationship dynamics, involving personal wounds POTENTIAL GOALS/LEARNING Clarity regarding a hurtful issue Expression personal feelings, Awareness of personal responsibility Behavior Change Making amends FOCUSING IN EXPRESSION: PERSONAL FEELINGS My feelings regarding the hurtful situation are ______________________________________ EXPRESSION: PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY I helped created the hurtful situation by ________________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: MAKING AMENDS To make amends for the hurtful situation, I will ______________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Self Care Intention Options - Dialogue Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Others-focused: Option G Letting Go (others) LETTING GO METAPHORS Burn it; Fire Bury it; Earth Wash it; Water Cast to wind; Air Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness OR; Continue Next Line: FOCUSING IN A person I choose not to have in my life is _____________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Action Plan Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page