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Live Life as a Learning Opportunity Self-focused Emotions Options: A-G   Guilt Blame Fear Pain Forgive (self) Redemption Letting Go

Emotional Awareness: Self-focused: Option A Guilt/Appeasement OPENING AFFIRMATION I AM Worthy Options to continue:   ReThink - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness OR; Continue Next Line: What do you have; and do not feel worthy having? __________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: What have you done; and you do not feel good about? _______________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: What do you want; that you do not feel worthy of having _________________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: Who do you please; and your pleasing comes from a “should” _____________________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: Who do you agree with; and your agreeing comes from a “should” _______________________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: Focusing IN GUILT STATEMENT My Guilt with the greatest intensity is _____________________________ RELEASE STATEMENT I release myself from guilt regarding _______________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Awareness Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Self-focused: Option B Blame (self) BLAME SOURCE I blame myself for my action regarding ____________________________ I blame myself for thoughts regarding ___________________________ I blame my attitudes regarding _________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Intention Options Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt OR; Continue Next Line: FOCUSING IN MY SELF-BLAME WITH GREATEST INTENSITY _________________________ RELEASE STATEMENT I let go my self-blame regarding ________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Awareness - Intention Options Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Self-focused: Option C Fear FEAR DESCRIPTION EXAMPLES Mild - Moderate - Intense My pain is? (describe pain) _____________________ BODY AWARENESS LOCATION EXAMPLES Chest - Arm - Head - Stomach – Heart My fear is located in my ? (describe location) ________________________________ AWARENESS EXAMPLES Work - Financial - Family - Relationship My fear relates to _________________ FEAR ANALYSIS Life situation my fear relates to is _________________________ A person my fear relates to is ___________________________ An unresolved situation my fear relates to is _____________________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Study/Analyze - Action Plan Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: Focusing In FEAR SITUATION WITH GREATEST INTENSITY ______________________________ RELEASE STATEMENT I release my fear regarding ___________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Awareness Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Self-focused: Option D Pain PAIN DESCRIPTION EXAMPLES Dull - Sharp - Pounding – Piercing My pain is? (describe pain) ___________________ BODY AWARENESS LOCATION EXAMPLES Stomach - Chest Head - Back Heart - Arm I feel my pain in my ? __________________ Emotional Awareness Examples Fear - Anger - Hurt - Joy - Guilt Hate - Revenge - Love My pain represents (express emotion) _________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Study/Analyze - Action Plan Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: PAIN ANALYSIS Life situation my pain relates to is ___________________________ A person my pain relates to is ___________________________ An unresolved situation my pain relates to is _____________________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Study/Analyze - Action Plan Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: PAIN SITUATION WITH THE GREATEST INTENSITY __________________________________ RELEASING STATEMENT I release my pain regarding _______________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Awareness Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Self-focused: Option E Forgive (self) FORGIVENESS METAPHOR To untie; Untie the knot, that binds you. Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness OR; Continue Next Line: FORGIVENESS STATEMENTS I grant myself forgiveness for my actions and behaviors regarding (a person) ______________________________ I grant myself forgiveness for my actions and behaviors regarding (an organization) ______________________________ I grant myself forgiveness for my actions and behaviors regarding (my self) ______________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Study/Analyze - Action Plan Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: Focusing In LETTING GO STATEMENT Greatest healing potential is forgiving myself for ____________________ RELEASE STATEMENT I forgive myself for __________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Awareness Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Self-focused: Option F Redemption REFLECT 0N: PERSONAL REGRETS Attitudes I am sorry I have ______________________ Behaviors I am sorry I do _____________________ Thoughts I am sorry I have ______________________ Information I am sorry I withheld ________________________ Stories I am sorry I told ____________________ Actions I am sorry I did ____________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Study/Analyze - Action Plan Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: FOCUSING IN REDEMPTION STATEMENT The regret I have with the greatest intensity is _________________________________ RELEASE STATEMENT I release myself from regret for doing ______________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Awareness OR; Continue Next Line: MAKING AMENDS EXAMPLES Receiving atonement - Doing service Providing compensation - Providing reparations MAKING AMENDS ACTION I will make amends by doing _________________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness Dialogue/Discussion - Fear - Guilt - Blame Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page Emotional Awareness: Self-focused: Option G Letting Go LETTING GO METAPHORS Burn it; Fire Bury it; Earth Wash it; Water Cast to wind; Air Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness OR; Continue Next Line: HOLDING ON SITUATIONS Attitudes I am holding on to are __________________________ Behaviors I am holding on to are ___________________________ Activities I am holding on to are __________________________ Thoughts I am holding on to are _________________________ Events I am holding on to are _________________________ People I am holding on to _____________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Vision - Awareness - Study/Analyze - Action Plan Dialogue/Discussion - Self Care - Fear - Guilt - Blame OR; Continue Next Line: Focusing In LETTING GO STATEMENT Greatest healing potential is to let go of _____________________ RELEASING STATEMENT I have let go of _____________________ Options to continue:   ReDo - Stop - Take a break - Go to:   Reflect - Awareness Additional Healing Change Activators Additional Options HLQ Home - Top of Page